For me, I looked back to the beginnings of our R. How and why we got married. How and why we became unhappy.
What I figured out was that we never really had a mature, open, loving R. W, for whatever reason, is afraid of real intimacy. I, for reasons that I am still grapling with, was willing to settle for a R that was far below my expectations, both emotionally and physically.
Once I came to these conclusions, I looked at what I really want in a partner. My W does not meet very many of the things that I am looking for and so I stopped trying to save the M.
My only advice is to go through a similar process of evaluating the past, present and potential future of your R before making any judgement.
SD.
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
