Jeff-I am new here, but with a similar sitch, only I have been married 30 years, and D not quite done yet. I think these women get in a rush to get their almighty D and then find out that in reality it is nothing what they expected, and as has been said-happiness comes from inside, not from others. your x may well be rethinking what in the world she has done. Make sure you put on the best front you can and be positive. if you fell like helping on a particular day, fine. If not, then so be it. It is part of her consequence aqnd the sooner they face up to that, the sooner that things may improve. i think my wife will get her D, and 6 months down the road when she sees me with another gal things will finally come into focus of what she had and gave away. most will only realize this when it's too late. what a shame for all involved. It will get better. spring will come. Hang in there buddy!
