Joie I totally hear what your saying about backing off but here is what I think....We do usually talk once a day but not always. I gave him a TON of space by going out of town for 2 months and there were times when we wouldnt talk for up to a week. H told me the other night he is afraid of being alone. He has also mentioned before when we were going to marriage counseling that he is NEEDY. That he needs alot of attention and affection and wasent getting that at home after our son was born. (he is correct about that) So I'm wondering if that's what I need to do. THat would I think be a 180 for me. Calling him more, wanting to be around him and trying to do fun things. I did try that last week and it worked well but then he told me he had stayed at OW house and I lost all hope. I realize I need to try for more than a week it's just very hard.
Thank you so much for responding to me all the time. I cant even tell you how much I appreciate your support and thoughts!! I will check out that other stich
The other thing is I dont want to go overboard with it and I dont want to set my self up for any more disappoint so i'm not sure where to draw the line. For the first time in probably 3 months I gave him a kiss on the cheeck when he left sunday and he thanked me about 4 times for that. Is that going to far???? I have found myself wanting to say ILY lately but I have stopped myself several times before it came out.
