It's Really Over, Throwing Him Out~ this so hard

[water2moon]

Ok so here is the latest..Told my H he had to leave the night of March 20th when I called the OW and he was with her. He came home after work Friday morning and Found all of his things in Garbage bags..He went to stay in a hotel since the OW lives with her Mother.Of course she was with him through most of it..Late Friday night he starts calling me and I stay strong. He seems shocked at the way I'm acting. Wasn't crying and didn't seem sad. Told him I still planned to have D's bday party the following day..Most of the guests are his family members, they are supporting me through all of this craziness since he seems to have lost his mind!! Fast Forward Saturday morning. He calls me at 9 Am sobbing hysterically telling me he made a mistake and wants his family back including me. For 2 months now he has been telling me he no longer loves me and is only here for the kids. I tell him there will be stipulations..I want to see the phone the OW purchased for him, I want access to credit card accounts and I need reassurance until I can trust again.

I told him I really want him to go and live with the OW for some time to see if this is what he really wants but he tells me he doesnt want to live with her..I tell him not to come home just yet but perhaps Easter Sunday he can stop by and we can talk.

He shows up at 7AM and finds that I have changed all of the locks( Yes I was not playing around)As soon as he comes in he reaches out to hold me and doesn't let go for a while..He hasn't done this in so long..I almost started crying too but held strong..

So now the OW continues her nonsense..She was so angry when he told her he wanted to come back home. He had his out and chose to come back rather than start a life with her..She told him she would make it easy on him this time around, change her number and would not contact him..well that lasted less than 8 hrs. She started calling him again, he gave me his phone so I can see that he is not responding and he swears that this time it will end for real. She did chnage her number yet called him with the new number today..where is the sense in this?? Why does she continue to act like she owns him? And how can I believe he will stay true this time? He has been weak 3 other times and went back..why should now be any different? He says 2 nights away from us was hell and he never wants that again. I want to believe so badly but i'm scared to do so.The odds seem to be stacked against me since it seems that they always go back..or do some finally stop?? what would you have done?