Doing a "Giffon" (lol) this only sorts you out (temporarily), but it does not fix your M.
Im my sitch spent so much time trying to sort out my W's PA before I relised that it wasn't the most significant factor, I needed to look deeper for answers. Your H needs to look deeper if a) he himself gets a clue. or b) you back off and allow him to find it.
Just reading back on some of the stuff FG has written, I think he's trying to tell you that your H is more Physical than you think but he just need the room and the tacit encourament to express it.
