How do you know if it is real or just don't like to lose?
I ask this of myself time to time and I struggle with it as well. its not beginner stuff , I think its very relevant later in the process when the rose coloured glasses come off.
I think personaly I am in this to see if W can be the supportive W I want once again , if we can build a fresh R . There are a lot of reasons this would be good but at this stage its not the problem. It may seem heartless but I think its almost a case of trying to attract them back and then deciding what to do.
