Easter was great as always! The boys and I went to my grandparents' house (about 2 hours away) along with the rest of the family. Unfortunately since production at the refinery is up and running again, H had to work, so he was unable to go with us. Oh well, hopefully next time.
Anyway, two things happening this coming Friday, and I'm not sure what to do. First thing, it's my sister's birthday on Friday, and my BIL is throwing a party for her. Friends and family in full force - Party Time!
Second, H's first softball game is also this coming Friday evening. He said he told me about it last month and that I said I would go. I honestly do not remember this, but if he says it's so, then I guess I did. Nevertheless, I would like to go to this, too.
Obviously, I cannot be in two places at once. Both begin at 7pm and are an hour apart in distance, and I can't show up to the party later on - it's being held at a restaurant, so surely it will be over within two hours.
On one hand, I want to hang out with my family and friends. It is my sister's birthday, after all! But OTOH, I want to go to H's game. Support the team and cheer him on!
When H and I talked about this on Friday, he said he really wanted me to go to his game. I said alright since he said I told him I would go to begin with. Well, Saturday he brought it up again, asking what I was going to do this coming Friday. I reminded him that I would be going to his game. He said, "No, I thought you were going to your sister's party? You should go. Besides, I might want to go out with the fellas after the game and have some beers."
Umm, ok. Does that mean I shouldn't or can't go to his game then? I didn't ask to hang out with the guys, too, did I? Not sure if this means something or not.
Then yesterday, same thing. H brought up this Friday again, wanting to know what the plans were. I said, "I really don't know. At first, I wanted to go to my sister's party, but then that changed because I decided I wanted to see you play instead. Now, I'm not sure if you even want me to go because you might want to hang out with the guys afterwards. I don't understand what you want from me."
He then had to get off the phone (he was still at work).
Ugh! Another feeling of "damned if I do, damned if I don't".
Last edited by GoingForward; 03/25/0812:05 AM.
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