Ok, when you wrote about your PA, the bravdo, the "I've got a f** buddy, the I couldn't careless attitude, I saw all of that in my W. In fact when I tried to discuss it with her she just told me whats done is done, get over it. That comment hurt just as much as the PA. What I didn't see directly from W was the shame, the guilt, the emotional distress that she would be feeling. Forrest told me she would be feeling this, but I couldn't see it . Reading your sitch now, I could just see the other point of view, I can nowsee my W expressing all of those emotions, based on the way she is now behaving.
Right now Forrest tells you to back off from H, I would more say be wary of H cos right now he's gonna try to fix what he sees as the immediate problem, the A, not your R or your M hes gonna try to fix the A. We DAM try to fix things in the way we know how so H has sized you and the opposition up by asking in depth about the A. Now when he gets the chance he'll try to fix it, that's why I posted what I did in my previous post.
I'll spell this out for you from H "If I f*** you to within an inch of you life why would you want anyone else" ok if this happens H restores his pride and boosts his ego but it doesn't fix the R. That's why Forrest tells you to back off (not ignore or go dark) cos this phase is gonna get like the Giffon cos H is gonna come at you full force.
