ok, I guess 'righteous' is the point of confusion. I think I hear what you are saying now. Thanks.
I know that I made a lot of mistakes, but I also know now that I wasn't in any position to deal with everything I was dealing with back then. And I can see that she just simply does not get it, does not see where I am at, or where I WAS at. She just sees me as the source of her unhappiness, and she has no responsibility for me whatsoever. Only for herself, and to some extent the kids.
