Hello Mr. MLC part deux!!

[mymonkeybug]

Bizzare-

Thanks for you reply. He just sent me a text offering to stop at Starbucks if I would like so I thanked him and gave him my order...lol. Someone wise once told me that men like to feel needed and if they offer to do something for you it is because they need to feel needed and wanted so since hearing that from somone whenever H has asked me if I need anything like this Starbucks offer or when he asks me on Thursay nights on his way here if I need anything I always come up with something now even of just a gallon of milk to help him feel like he is still needed.

I will stay for a bit anyway and enjoy my coffee...yummy.

[Forrest Gump]

I'm here. I'm watching. The weird thing is you are handing out some tools that are Snap-On quality and don't even realize it. I will get involved in this soon and hopefully tie it all together. Sometimes I just like to sit back and watch.

[smith18]

I also tried to add pics from our Mass. trip to my sig. line but there wasn't enough room for the 3 I picked so it only took the first one. Any suggestions would be appreciated for that also. Kerry you seem to be a good one for helping us less than computer friendly ones out in that arena...lol.

I dont think the IMG tag works on this site. You might want to just add the following to your sig to keep it short:

[url=http://tinyurl.com/ypa7s8]Mass Trip[/url]

[mymonkeybug]

Yeah I am slowl graduating to Snap On from Craftsman...lol. I will come back on later today and post the full days events for your critqueing FG.

What I will say is that H and I hung out today and conversed like good old friends, not lovers and H & W, but like the friends we always used to be. Seemed like progress to me but I will give details later. Now if I lock myself out I will have to figure out a way of fixing this unless my dear friend Kerry is willing again to help lik ehe did last time I locked up.

[mymonkeybug]

OK here goes.

As posted above H got here this a.m. with my yummy Starbucks. He was here for about 5 hours before leavig to take the kids to his parents or the Easter thing. Well while he was here rather than spend 90% of the time with the kids and about 10% with me it was the opposite. He couldn't seem to leave me be. He wanted to talk about our sit. and how we would make it through it just fine and be the best of friends no matter what and how we won't be mean and nasty during this. He opened up some about what he is doing and where he is going. Wouldn't tell me about where he lays his head at night but that he still needs to keep private as it is with friends I don't even know, new ones he has met since leaving home he says. He discussed with me the trip they are all planning for the last week of May to a beach somewhere for some relaxation and how even if everyone else bails on the trip that he WILL go for some R&R.

Sorry, gotta' run. D5 is in major melt down since daddy left. I will return to post later hopefully part 2 of this story.

[mymonkeybug]

OK I am back. Got her calmed but WOW what a bad night this was for her. She has not yet had a night like this.

Anyway back to my day with H. He talked and talked and we joked and laughed like good old times. I let him do lots of talking and that he did. He mentioned that he doesn't go OUT partying nearly as much as I assume he does but that he has taken a liking to Yager and Red Bull which is apparently mixed together...ewwwwwwww. Sounds like he is truly trying to be 21 again to me.

I don't really understand why he is so private about all these new friends he has made though. I know I don't know them but he always loved to tell me about new people he would meet and their little quirks and what he liked or disliked about them and would usually tell me also if he felt I would like them but I do realize we aren't that same couple anymore either. However I can't waste time trying to figure this part out.

He professed that he WILL ALWAYS provide for us above and beyond what any court tells him because we are his responsibility. He also informed me that he is adding softball to his activity list on Monday nights so now he will have that on Mon. and volleyball on Tues. and Weds. which there is no way he would have been able to do if he were still home here as that would have him away from us 3 nights out of every week. See, he is really enjoying this freedom. I think he is honestly just liking being a DUDE and hanging out. He is watching SPIKE more which would indicate he is infront of a TV more....hmmmmm.....shared some changes happening at work and how he is just going with the flow for now and making sure nothing else drastically happens to him there. Hell it isn't like they could cut his pay anymore.

He admitted to me that was very pissed about what I did with the income tax return but after thinking about it understands why I did it the way I did and appreciates that I was so concerned or the house. He also admitted that he did earlier on in this seperation think about clsing the bank account so I couldn't have access but that he was thinking out of anger and doesn't even know now why he was so angry at first. I attempted to throw in an apology for things I did to make him feel like I had been the one to ruin him financially since he made the money and I spent it and he said not to worry about that, that it is all behind us now.

Something else he said that I just listened to which is something he said a month or so ago was that he wonders if I should move closer to town where I have the opportunity for a guaranteed job. Moving closer to town would be taking me and the kids back to wher we lived before we moved here and would also take me and them closer to his work again. I wonder if he is trying to suggest that if I move back that way that he would feel better since we would be back in familiar territory like before we moved and that maybe if we were closer to his work he might consider coming back home?!?!?! I won't even begin to think about that one too much more unless he continues to mention that.

I voiced my concern to him about the uncertainty of renting since there are no guarantees the kids and I wouldn't have to keep moving based on landlord needs or wants and how we would be losing the tax benefits and add the cost of renters insurance. He said that once this house sells that he will gladly buy us a house so that the kdis and I have that security as he wants us to be secure and have a permanent roof. I thought that was very generous and voiced that I would of course expect to be on the deed and title at least and he was more than fine with that. He did stress that getting us situated is his main priority and not him getting his own place just yet.

And of course throughout the day he took many chances to throw in a joke or wise crack about the PA I had and how he thinks it did good for me and feels it made me happy and gave me a glow that he wants me to keep. Even told me that he almost bought me a box of condoms as an Easter gift but wasn't sure how I would react so didn't.

So that in a book version was my day with H. Odd, interesting, fun, and wonderful.

Oh must add that when he brought the kids home he hung out for a few minutes until the kids started asking if he could stay and when he said he couldn't and they started to cry he really RAN to the door, snuck in a quick hug with me and apologized for leaving them with me like this. I think when they get this way he starts to feel the guilt of what he did. MAYBE????

[Forrest Gump]

What happened to his MLC? You wrote all that and never said one word about it?

What are you and him talking about like "Old Friends"? Specifically. Sounds like policy discussion to me. Maybe I am wrong. I need clarification.

"He did stress that getting us situated is his main priority and not him getting his own place just yet."

Yes. He is done I can see it right now. Pack up that house you will have to sell it soon.

"And of course throughout the day he took many chances to throw in a joke or wise crack about the PA I had and how he thinks it did good for me and feels it made me happy and gave me a glow that he wants me to keep. Even told me that he almost bought me a box of condoms as an Easter gift but wasn't sure how I would react so didn't."

How did that make you feel? Would you have laughed or been offended?

Think thats it for now.

[smith18]

And of course throughout the day he took many chances to throw in a joke or wise crack about the PA I had and how he thinks it did good for me and feels it made me happy and gave me a glow that he wants me to keep.

I just cant see myself ever joking with my W about her PA. I wonder what is going through his mind concerning your PA. I get this feeling that he is going to use it against you.

[Lanzo]

Hi MMB,

I'm gonna throw this one out there see what you think.

You had this fling, this PA, but H not overly angry, infact he quite intrigued and wanted all the intimate details. He even thought about the condom joke. Me thinks his pride / ego dented, and very soon he'll try to restore it. Don't be surprised if at some stage soon he comes on to you for sex. Not sure how to describe it cos it won't be make up sex, but more a little rough where he literally tries to f*** all traces of OM out of you, and tries to show you he's the best lover you've ever had.

Speaking from a mans point of view I can see this happening. (Enjoy it if it does).

Lanzo

[mymonkeybug]

What happened to his MLC? You wrote all that and never said one word about it?

Well I still believe that there is some of that as part of this given that he is trying to live like a 20 something with no responsibility by clubbing and bar hopping with the GUYS and drinking drinks he has never before had. I don't know though, maybe he, hell I just don't know FG on this one.

What are you and him talking about like "Old Friends"? Specifically. Sounds like policy discussion to me. Maybe I am wrong. I need clarification.

Well when I say talking like old friends I mean that there isn't tension and discomfort from him. But that could very well be because I am doing everything in my power to be that girlfriend and not that wife/mother figure that he maybe felt me to be before.

"He did stress that getting us situated is his main priority and not him getting his own place just yet."

Yes. He is done I can see it right now. Pack up that house you will have to sell it soon.

What am I missing here?

"And of course throughout the day he took many chances to throw in a joke or wise crack about the PA I had and how he thinks it did good for me and feels it made me happy and gave me a glow that he wants me to keep. Even told me that he almost bought me a box of condoms as an Easter gift but wasn't sure how I would react so didn't."

How did that make you feel? Would you have laughed or been offended?

If he had actually gotten a box of condoms I would have laughed. You see he and I had always been very open about sexual fantasies with others but they were always fantasy. He did actually try with his best friend once last June though to persuade me to be with them both as that had been something we had talked about but I paniced and didn't go through with it.