(((((di)))))(Kalni)))))(((((Lisa)))))(((((WCW))))) Wow! I had to go back and read my post, to make sure I hadn't said I was dying, and she was ignoring it! But, no, I was pretty accurate, in the larger scheme of things the biopsy could probably be put off. On the other hand, the doc doesn't want to look at a little bit of my liver because everything is peachy keen!
Any of you are welcome to come an "Drive my Car" (sticking with the Beatles theme there). It would be nice to go with someone that actually cared about how I felt!
I'm still debating how I will handle this. One part of me really has no interest in her being there, anyway. I am hoping that when I get the info from the hospital it says I can drive afterwards. Though I expect not. I may talk to S18 independently, and see what he says. Or, I might call her parents. Ohhh, wouldn't that be interesting! I really have a feeling that they would come closer to sharing your opinion than W's! But, that is a bit underhanded. I have some time to decide. But I really don't think I am interested in asking her about it again, I am more inclined to just tell her what I am going to do, an it won't involve her.
If only you had scheduled that over my Spring Break, I could have made it down in time to drive you! (((Jeff)))
How inconsiderate of her. How utterly selfish.
Seems par for the course to some extent.
Don't reschedule, git 'er done. You need to take care of the medical stuff, and if she won't help you out you have kids and friends who will. Hell, if your in laws will, good for them. That would be a bit of irony. Talk to S18 though. Explore your options.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
((((((MichelleLT)))))) Yeah, I would have been happy to have you drive me!
You are right, this is just another manifestation of who she is, I think. And has been.
I will not reschedule, unless they call and beg me to go sooner!
The irony of having her parents help me out is not lost on me! But, I have to think that approaching them just might get her a little angry, and might even be considered goading her on! I'll probably talk to S18 first. I think he has a class or two at the community college that day, but I think the timing might work out pretty well. I think I can play this by ear a bit, and see what shakes out. Seems like a lot of times, the right answer becomes obvious if you give it a chance!
I know we all (well, I do, anyway) spend too much energy wondering if we are the one's that have lost their mind! Having the support of all of you really helps!
Trying to wrap the 2x4 but the nails are sticking out, sorry. Jeff, if you don't want your W there ok. Disregard the rest of this. If you would like her to drive you and be there then don't lay down and be passive on this issue. Talk to her. I mean really talk to her. Ask her to sit down with you, no kids no tv no computer. This isn't just about getting a ride for a biopsy. There is more involved here than calling your W or calling a cab.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
If she gets angry over you asking S18 or her parents to help you out, just tell her that you needed a ride and it was too important to you to reschedule. Plain and simple. That's all there is to it. *shrugs* So she might get angry. No reason to walk on eggshells, take care of yourself!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
My two cents, I totally agree with Michelle. You need to take care of your health. If you dont want her there, dont have her there. Do what is best for you and dont worry about what she thinks. Oh, I am getting angry just thinking about what she said. It's not like you said you need to get a tooth pulled - it's a freakin biopsy for Pete's sake. I know it could be nothing, I am praying that it is, but it is a surgical procedure. Not something you should just reschedule because her brother is there. What is wrong with this woman? Sorry, I just got a little upset.
You need to take care of the medical stuff, and if she won't help you out you have kids and friends who will. Hell, if your in laws will, good for them. That would be a bit of irony. Talk to S18 though. Explore your options.