Another month has gone by and alot has happened, though nothing as far as the restoration of my M goes.
W got the paperwork from the courts, via her lawyer, for setting out our assets and liabilities and we filled it out together. We pretty well stuck to figures we had discussed very early on in all this. We did the math and my payout figure, on the form, was about 4,000 less than what we were working on and had agreed to earlier.
I baulked at signing it saying I couldn't and wouldn't and that we had made an agreement and I had stuck to it even though I did waver and thought the house was worth more but had gone with the original valuation etc...
W got upset at this point and started crying and complaining about how much this was costing her what with lawyers and fees etc, so I got her some tissues and tried my best to comfort her whilst gently letting her know this wasn't my idea and that this sort of thing costs money. She tried to get me to agree to paying half her lawyer fees and I said you pay your lawyer and I'll pay mine if I choose to get one.
W then said 'I give you my word that I'll give you the payout we agreed to regardless what this form says'.
So I said 'OK where do I sign'. We shall see what her word means won't we.
Once all the form filling, signing and initialing was done I made her and I a cup of tea, like you do. I was blown away when W came up to me and wanted a hug. In the last 18+ months she has not wanted to be near me even going as far as telling me she was not comfortable with me touching her when I tried to get a hug a year and a bit ago. CRAZY STUFF. I gave her the hug and she seemed to want to hang around and talk for a while like old times. All the while loverboy is sitting out in the verandah, I didn't hang around and talk like old times with her I took my tea outside and the kids joined me away from her and her 'boyfriend'.
So much for the dramatic side of life, onto the mundane. I am now unemployed again, my choice, I decided I would not be working for my boss's son when he takes over the business and that I would be leaving. Well rather than waiting for it to happen I just jumped. Haven't looked for work through the Easter break but am now actively looking. I'm not too worried at the moment, give me a week or so then I may be.
Have signed up for a weekend retreat run by a delagation of monks from Plumb Village in France. They are in Australia to open a new centre in Victoria and are taking the oppertunity to visit Queensland whilst they are over here. Should be good and I'm looking forward to it.
I'm guessing the W will not be coming around any time soon if ever.
