I am dbing but everyone around me is encouraging me to get on with my life, go out on dates etc. Starting to mess with my perspective especially when h is still giving me nothing and going on with his life as if I was an irritating little fly. When i go dark he enjoys it because i disappear!
SS, All of your friends certainly have your best interest at heart, but I'm sure many of them have never gone through something like this. Only you can decide when you are ready to move on from your H. It's a very personal decision.
What I try to do is to stay busy with my friends and family and try not to discuss my H with them. If they ask I usually give them a vague answer like "Oh, things are about the same" then I try to change the subject. I come here to vent when I need to. This helps me not to rely so much on my friends who think I should move on, but also look at it this way, anything you say on here won't get back to your H. I have found that word sure travels. It is often added to by the time it gets to the WAS also!
I think it is also wise to tell your new male friend that you are only ready for friendship now. You are being honest with him and he can decide if that is enough for him now. Who knows, sometimes friends fall in love...
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
