I think it was the right time to take a more firm stance on what I wanted out of the R. She has seen the positive differences in me that she would have if she came back. I think that is powerful and will make her decision to D harder. That's all I could do. Like Hope4us I also made sure to mention that she needs to make the choice that she believes will make her happy. I don't want her to come back if the M will be loveless and it's pretty warped for me to try to rekindle her love when she has OM.
I'm glad to hear about the progress you've made in your M. It's nice to have 2 more years to convince her to stay. I've had just over a month and felt like great progress was made between the two of us in that short period of time. Hopefully that was enough to get her to seriously reconsider her decision. I know she'll take it seriously. However, I'm worried that OM has her ear at the moment and will influence her in a detrimental way. One of the one-liners I tossed her way during our talk yesterday was this: "Since I am interested in working things out in our M OM has to be completely out of your life because he doesn't have the best interest of our marriage at heart." I used that line to add more justification to why he needs to be gone if we're going to think about working on things. I think it was a good one.
Thanks again for helping me through this guys it means a lot to me.
