Just some quick history, about 2 yrs ago my wife was hell bent on a divorce. After 7 months and court hearings I had all but given up, I met another woman, someone I worked around. Nothing had happened between me and this person before my wife decided to give it another try. Things were great until I made the mistake of being angry about the hell my wife had put me through and I had an affair with this other woman for about three months before being exposed. Needless to say my wife was devistated, however she continued with the marriage. Of course she was sad after finding out, and so was I but that was as for as the emotions went. My wife never got mad about it, she almost took the responsibity for the affair occuring, and I was never honest about anything that I did or why I did it. Fast forward 4 months when I approached the other woman and the affair started up again. This time it was not as frequent and I tried several times to end it because I was afraid of my wife discovering what I was doing. As to be expected the affair was once again discoverd. Now my wife has gone through the sadness and has entered the anger stage that she had foregone after the first discovery. Unliike the first dicovery I have admitted everything, no matter how ugly the truth is, because I am tired of lying and hurting my wife, who I continue to love. She has asked me to leave our house so she can have some time. At this point she thinks she will not be able to forgive me, but she is not rushing into a divorce, because even she admits she doesn't know how she will feel later We have 2 kids (B-7, G-5) and they will be devistated by my not being in the house, but at this point I have to do everything I can to help my wife, I am the guilty person in this. Waht I am saking for is anyone who has gone through something like this for some advice on how to handle what is going on and what to expect in the future. I will continue to give more details about what led up to this point and what I have done and am doing to change my behaviors.
