seek, You are DB really well, you are not pursuing, you are giving him space. It all sounds positive, he answers straight away and comes over straight away. He left a note, when he needn't have.
Perhaps the texts didn't end with him not b/c he didn't want to talk to you anymore but maybe he didn't want to give you false hope.
I understand how hard it must be to try and make light hearted conversation when he feels like a stranger.
Buy hey, remember to do what works. Texting seems to be. He maybe peeking out of the tunnel, nice and slow does it, continue to text, but don't overdo the frequency, instead of once a month, do it twice a month and see what response you get.
Look at the positives, you are both calm.....
x Evie xxx
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07