Sweetie, he's definately trying to put all his wrongs on your shoulders. Trust me, I know, my H is an expert at that.
He's not thinking in the right frame of mind. My question is how would he feel if the love of his daughter's life did that to her? Probably not very good.
Have a good day.
SueS
Thanks, Sue! Yes he has always blamed me for everything, so I guess it was natural for him to blame me now that he realizes his kids are more distant. He just apologized via email that he was wrong, etc. But I had 30 nasty emails before that one of course.
That was exactly what I was thinking about when I had that one brief talk with the kids, is that I would not want my D8 to ever be in the position I have been and so I had that talk on my therapist's suggestion.
H seems to have finally calmed down now after being upset since yesterday over my talk with the kids! He thinks that his reaction is normal, but I think he way overreacted to that. It was only a one-minute talk. And then he threatened to trash-talk about me to the kids today! I emailed him that would just hurt them, not me because they would still love me anyway. And that's why I told him I don't trash talk about him! I think lawyers think much differently than non-lawyers, I guess!! Karen
Karen
