I am sorry for the poor reaction from your W. Jeff, sit down with her again, tell her how you feel, tell her this is important, tell her you could use her support emotionally during this even if she can't be with you physically (which she could and should be!). Don't let this be something that she pushes under the rug and you resent her for doing that and yourself for allowing it. (((Jeff)))
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
