Trying to be patient

[SueS]

Hi Karen-

You are probably right. He probably does think that you've said inappropriate things to them. If you are the type of person I think you are, you would not say something that would put them against their father. The talk you did have with them was right, in my opinion. You didn't bash him saying he was evil or a rat ba$tard (like what possibly crossed your mind). You were honest with them about right & wrong and they'll respect you for that. Your kids are old enough to understand that he's pushing them away not you. Old enough to understand that mom isn't crazy....and if she is slightly crazed these days....it's from all the crap dad's doing. He's the one that's making his relationship with them weaker....and in a way, making yours with them stronger. And too bad if your kids aren't as devestated by this as he thought they should/would be. It's his fault. Sweetie, he's definately trying to put all his wrongs on your shoulders. Trust me, I know, my H is an expert at that.

He's not thinking in the right frame of mind. My question is how would he feel if the love of his daughter's life did that to her? Probably not very good.

Have a good day.

SueS