Please help - I need DB advice ASAP

[I'mstillhopeful]

First of all, a standing ovation to plentyhope!! When H asked me what I thought of the e-mail he was planning to send I basically took your advice. I told him that he had used the first person plural and only about 15% represented my feelings on the matter. Which 15%? The part about taking the trip and having a wonderful time. Although he repeated that he was "confused" by my reply he was not successful in drawing out any more information. A few days ago he said he had decided to not send the e-mail. KUDO's to you!

Gypsy, I've been caught up in my own special turmoil since I returned and haven't had much time to read the forum. I did see your new posting over on the Newcomers board. Once again I thought to myself that I was not the only woman in the universe whose husband thought of his job as his mistress.

It sounds as if you had a fairly good Easter, with the exception of the minor bump in the road with your teenaged son. Good for you! You are sounding strong and confident today.

In addition to writing amusing prose (SBD Syndrome comes to mind), moving poetry, and good advice to others, you take the time to read those posts which may have slipped a few pages back.

Unfortunately, the sleeping arrangements won't be changing any time soon. The day I returned we met at a restaurant, and, sure enough, the wedding ring was gone. I had prepared myself and didn't even look at his hand. We got home, he came to our bedroom to get some things, and the wedding ring was in place.

My situation deteriorated on Easter when he went to church in the morning. Although he usually returns around 12:30 this time it was 3:30 p.m. and, once again, no wedding ring. I slipped my DB resolve big time and asked him what had happened and where he had been. His vagueness leads me to believe he was lying.

I don't know if I believe him when he says that he took his sister to a town 25 miles away to go shopping. It is possible that she was with him, it is also possible that he took her to introduce her to the OW, it is also possible that he had planned to meet the OW in advance, and it is also possible that OW called in a crisis and he went to comfort her. Regardless, it is a step back on the stage two of our situation.

Oh yes, 2 minutes later, the wedding ring made a reappearance!

Oddly, just before he went to church he said he was having second thoughts about taking the third vacation with me in October! I had resigned myself to the fact that I would be looking for someone to accompany me on that one. The fact that he thinks it might still be an option is mind-blowing. Yes, MLC, believe none of what they say and half of what they do.

Gypsy, unfortunately the tv remote thing won't work. He hates the tv in the bedroom. For the past 15 years I have listened via an earphone. (He doesn't mind the light the t.v. gives off and would sleep with the light on if he could.)

Must go, have an appointment with my DB coach in a few minutes.

Thanks for finding my post,
ISH ;-)