Baby steps in the right direction (thread 3)

[MichelleLT]

Sorry to hear you are feeling down. I hope you are recovered from your fall and being sick. (((klm)))

You do deserve more . . . the question is whether he can give that to you. At one time, he could and did. I think he is still capable of it somewhere deep inside, but he's not at the moment because of his own issues.

When was the last time you guys actually talked about R/M? Was it when he got those texts from ex-OW?

It seems like things have been good (compared to a few months ago) but have hit a plateau. I mean, 3 months ago you would have been ecstatic over spending most of a weekend together. I think what has changed are your expectations - and not necessarily in a bad way. I think it is important to expect things to progress and keep working towards the R you want.

The question becomes . . . how do you achieve that goal? What are one or two things you really want/need from him? Have you tried asking him for them using the DB techniques? How do you think he would respond? Do you think a different technique would work better? You may very well be at a point where you need to take the initiative to get anything to change.

Just a thought.

Hope you have a good day!