As a woman, what do you think about her pushing the D. Would you see that as finality?
She is sure that this is what she wants hence her pushing the divorce. Your goal should be to get her to stop thinking divorce. Avoid all relationship talks. Work on the frienship then the romance. The 180 and GAL will help move things in that direction. Change how you dress, get a new haircut, if you don't work out start for examples. Remember these things are for you first and for her second.
Don't focus on her determination to get a divorce it will drive you crazy. It drove me crazy. My husband dropped the bomb on a Friday and told me he would file on Monday. That was seven months ago and the papers are still sitting in his car unfiled, unserved. Your W sees you in a positive light. You are ahead of most of us in that sense so focus on making yourself attractive to her not only on the outside, but on the inside too.
To make a long answer short, no I don't see it as a finality. When I was the one to leave I thought for sure that I wanted a D also. As you can see that wasn't the case.
What is your 180?
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