I think it's nothing short of remarkable, Neecy. And as you see it WORKING (for YOU, not for your R), it will become more and more second nature.
We can't control our spouses, but we DO get to work on ourselves. If you can grow thru this, maybe something good will come out of it. There's really no risk, because the whole "GAL" behavior ALSO makes you more attractive to the wayward spouse. The trick is, you have to not do it for that reason, which takes some real effort. As soon as you do it to try to "win them back," it defeats the whole purpose.
