Please Help, Divorce Almost Final!!!

[jerry161]

I started DBing a little over a week ago. I have barely spoken to my W, only about the kids 1 time. Anyway, her last day of work last week was Thursday and I went in to pick my daughter up after my W had gotten her from school. I had a fresh haircut, new shirt and tie....I looked like I was taking care of myself. Anyway I came in with a smile on my face, picked up my daughter, and gave my D5 lots of attention as we were walking out the door.

About 5 minutes after I left my W sends a message saying "it's okay to say hi and talk to me."

It seems like a week ago she would have been happy to have me not even look at her at all and to speak was repulsive to her. Anyway I am probably making too much out of this but it was nice to see that she noticed that I had not spoken to her. She may have just been mad that I did not small talk her....I don't know. I looked at her and smiled so I don't think I was rude:)

Anyway, I hope this is the first little ray of light in my very long journey.

I still have my sons' beds in my living room, dis-assembled at her request. I have just been waiting for her to come over and have me load them and take them to her mothers. They are still sitting there after two weeks. I'm starting to hope that there may be a reason for that too, although she has been adamant that the divorce was the right decision for her and she is counting the days.

I certainly don't see any hope many times. And there have been times where she tries to criticize my parenting at my house. It certainly seems like she hopes to extinguish any hope most of the time. I can't wait to at least see the way DBing will change my interaction if nothing else.

I hope I am not reading too much into something that means nothing, I know it's common for people in our place to do that.