H asked for divorce last night...HELP!

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thank you so much mishka. i'm so sorry for your situation too. everything you said was exactly right. he said these feelings of his have been going on for months and he never said a word. how could we work on our relationship if i don't even know anything is wrong!!??

my work knows what's going on and they have been great about it. but i know i can't sit here forever and expect to collect a paycheck. i just don't see how i can do this. how can i wake up tomorrow before its even light out and go to work like nothing ever happened? i was barely even able to feed my dogs this morning.

the H has stated several times how he doesn't think we need to get lawyers involved...just a mediator. i honestly don't know how any of this works so i'm not sure if that's true or not. it just kind of sounds like he doesn't want me to take him for everything he has.

i want to be positive and have a little hope that he will have a change of heart but i know him. he could make the worst decision in the world and not admit it or ever change his mind about it. i think even if he did decide he was making a bad decision by getting a divorce he would just live with it. b/c he is too stubborn to admit he was wrong.