Jak, Very tiring. My W is worried about money and retirement. Whenever her stress about this increases, she pushes me to take on a second job. I'm going to continue hold my ground about not working more than five days per week. I will begin a job search to check out other options.
I think the solution is going to involve us working more in partnership around this issue. We have a meeting set-up with our financial advisor next month. I'm not looking forward to it, but perhaps it will be a catalyst for us to work in partnership on this issue. The pattern now is she spends, and I pay the bills, and try to spend as little as possible. Perhaps these meetings will help keep her accountable.
She is going to have to be willing to practice some self-restraint and live within her means. I can only work with her if she is willing to partner on this issue.
She's pushing me take a vacation, but I'm not sure what we can afford. After the turbulence this weekend, I was too tired to talk about vacation planning this morning, when she brought it up. She wanted to know if I had looked into anything.
I have my dance class tonight, so will get a break from the R tonight.
We have been dancing more together, since we started a latin dance class two weeks ago. We've been practicing at home at least on a weekly basis.
I've been trying to be more helpful around the house.
Things are fine for days at a time, and then she has a meltdown, and then sleeps elsewhere. She returns, and the cycle starts again.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
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