H asked for divorce last night...HELP!

[mishka422]

Hope - Sit down, breathe, slowly.......

You're H and mine could be twins! My H filed 9 days after he left and moved in w/OW. He did this after telling me he just needed time alone to figure some things out and didn't want a divorce. Not only was he not alone he filed without even telling me was going to. He did break down right after that and come home only to leave again, came back 2 months after that and left again last week.

I know the pain you are in. The disbelief that he would throw away your M and the years of your R so quickly. He has been coming to this for a long time, you are still reeling from not even knowing he was that unhappy. He never talked to you about problems he felt you were facing, he never talked about anything before the bomb - right? It's practically textbook.

Don't go to work today. You couldn't do your job anyway. Do they know what is going on with your life? Does your manager at least know? See if they can give you a couple of personal days to pull yourself together.

You need to start looking for a L now! I'm not saying that you need to actually file anything. Let your H do that if he feels he needs to but you need sound advice. You need to know your options legally and financially. Do you own a house? Do you own any property?

I know it's almost impossible to even think about legal stuff right now but it may help you sort some emotions that are coming up out of the fear of being destitute. Trust me!

(((((hope99)))))

You will be ok. Just take one baby step at a time.