Sometimes I think the problem is we detach so far, learn to accept the loss of our marriages, GAL, start to love our lives "even without the spouse" and then when they come back it's not so easy to "reattach." We think, "Hey, maybe life would be better without this person who caused us so much pain...."
This has been my thought exactly the last few weeks. It's like, to get what we want, either our spouse or our lives back, we have to to something (detach) that may make it impossible to take them back once they do.
My H detached so far he won't consider taking me back. However, in my sitch I never threated divorce, but would not consider coming back until things had improved between us. I don't know if it makes a difference. There seems to be quite a bit of this on this board. Everyone has there limits, but I hope that people do not let go and instead remind themselves of the possibilities for their marriage and their spouse.
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