I think some "Neecy time" alone 1x/week, and a "girl's night out" 1x/week or 1x every-other week, where you don't keep texting him all night (but do come back when you say you're going to) would do wonders.
I actually have 2 things planned for this week. Friday after I drop D off at work I am going for a facial(part of the package I won). Saturday night my sister and I are going to a muscial (from the 2nd prize package I won).
Another good thing is hapenning this week. Both sets of grandparents will be returning home. In previous discussions when H had threatened to leave, or me to kick him out he was just going down the street to his parents beautiful empty house and no one was the wiser, now leaving holds the consequence of them knowing so it won't be an empty threat. 2nd reason this is good, way easier to get a babysitter so the idea that if H goes out i might need to stay home to watch d on a sturday night vanishes.
As far as the mystery, it would drive H nuts, if I could do it right. Last night I left the room and came back in to him going through my phone. He clicked through all the contacts - very few - and stopped on one I had purposely put as an acronym. Just the daycare. 20 questions on who this might be, and the threat to call it if I didn't tell him, My only response was should we go through your phone and discuss the calls? Well about 20 min later out of the blue he says the name of the daycare, since he sat there going through all the things that could come up with these letters.
The other night before my ride showed up he called (this is amongst the texts and he had only been gone 10 min) hafway through the convo I thought about things I've heard on here and said, alright then have a nice time I'll talk to you in a bit, bye. H - "wait, wait, why are you trying to get off the phone? I'm still talking."
One more different convo last night. The apple commercial that had been bugging me because of the song came on. He looked right at me laughed and said, that isn't the song. I said, I know and I really don't care if it is. He cocked his head and says, yes you do. Um no really I don't, 1. just because the song meant something to her doens;t mean it meant anything to you, you could care less about stuff like that 2. I am caring less and less about things like that everyday. H- It doesn't bother you just a little? Me - nope. About 10 min later, H- what do you mean you are caring less about things?
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009