Update to my sitch, the end has come

[mako_man]

Thank you for the reply, you didnt hijack anything, I appreciate all the understanding I can get. I believe my wife is already involved in a relapse. Aside from the the things I previously mentioned she was was going to come by for Easter and we were all going to go to church. Then I found out the previous night that she didnt sleep at her sisters house. When I confronted her she became violently defensive and kept explaining that its none of my business where she was last night, it doesnt matter, etc. I simply told her that she was crossing another boundary of mine and she just explained that she doesnt care about my boundaries or feelings. She then came over and started a huge fight in front of my kids, trying to defend her past behavior, trying to explain it all away in front of the kids. Terrible scene. She claimed that last night after an AA meeting a group of them simply "crashed" at the house after watching a couple of movies. I am not saying this is impossible, but she also explained just 2 days ago that if she could have anything it would be for me to trust her again, then I have to deal with this, trusting she wasnt drinking and staying with another man. If this was just an innocent thing why couldnt she have told me in the first place, or told me that night? It was a horrible fight, worst in many months. I have also been told repeatdly that "the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior", if thats the case I shouldnt trust that she was telling the truth. I am so confused.