I think all the baking is you trying to take care of yourself a little, its comforting, and maybe there isnt anyone else taking care of you right now. So dont be concerned, but dont overdo it either!? I've only baked a few times in my life and each time, the thing didnt rise, or collapsed in the middle, or tasted of flour. I need a lesson in pastry making!
Abuot the reaching out with gifts/cards...sorry to be a thorn in the side, but I'm not sure I agree. Not as an opening gambit anwyay. I've been reading a book on Depression and it says often, presents are ill received as it only serves to remind them how bad they feel inside and cant think of others and they can return them unopened, or offer to give you the money (my BF did this at christmas). Receiving presents involves being grateful and thankful, and depressed people have a problem with this (book explains it better than me!).
Rememeber I said your BF went through his Saturn Return? Well this can cause (or exacerbate) depression - depends on your own nature and birth chart. Someone who has a tendency to get depressed or be melancholy, if they have an afflicted Saturn in their own chart, or the area ruled by Saturn, once the Saturn Return hits, this is more likely to tip them into depression proper. It happened with my BF - on his SR when he was 29/30 and then again last year, he had Saturn conjunct his Sun (similiar in fact, worse transit) and sure enough..he got depression.
Saturn transits do often break up Rs or certainly test them to the limits. Thats why there are alot of people on these boards who have been M for 7 years (Saturn moves in 7 year cycles). Its never a good time to try and put an R back together during a Saturn transit, better to wait till it passes and then see how you feel.
I think, seeing as you havent had any contact with him at all, since 2 weeks after the bomb..not a letter or email, you dont know where he's living, how he is, whether or not he is seeing someone else now (he could be ?), then I dont think sending him a gift "cold" like that is a good idea.
I still think you should just email him, or send him a letter.
If he responds and wants to meet up (or has a birthday) then, maybe a small gift could be given then?
Just my two penneth! Glad you braved another sitch! We missed you...
Ali x ____________ Me: 37 H: 34 T: 9 years IDLYA: 2 Nov 07 Own flat: 26 Jan 08 will he reconnect?
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
