Thanks all! I know i am a bit of a ghost and appreciate all contributions. Something struck me tonight that I am not sure how to handle. When is enough, enough? I know I still love W and ss! How do you know if it is real or just don't like to lose? I have been detached, and then not so much. My life still rolls pretty darn well. W is still cake eating after so long. Now I am questioning whether I am in this for the right reasons. Her family was happy to see me on easter, she actually invited my sibs over last night. A huge step! Unfortunately my sibs did not come over. But I question, am I afraid of failure? Do I truly love w? I think i do. This may sound like beginner stuff, but wrestling with it again.