Here's the story, sorry if it's long. We met about 2 years ago, he immediately moved in and we planned on a child together, (I made sure he understood that I would only have a child if both parents raise the kido together, no if, ands, or buts, working everying day) (I have a 16 year old from previous marriage, horrible divorce, kid still suffering)took us 3 months to get pregnant. We got engaged, asked infront of my class. It was rocky, him leaving, me kicking him out always seemed to be for the same reason, him choosing his family, friends, soccer, work anything but me over it all. We would get back together never really working on things just kind of ignoring the problems. Daughter was born Sept 10, he was there, I know I said horrible things, needing to feel validation of what he felt about me. When she was a few weeks old :on going argument of me kicking him out, I say he walked out. We've been seperated for 6 months. Over the past 6 months he has seen his daughter about 15 times. We do not speak ever, I've done all the classic mistakes, pursuing him, letters etc. During the 6 months of seperation we've discussed working things out, he took one counseling session, he didn't tell me he moved out of his mother's and rented a house for a year. I broke my teaching contract since in January we both agreed it would be better for our daughter to have me home with her, he was also supposed too pay to support us, he's not. New teaching contracts are coming, I'm against daycare, that's not why I had my daughter. I went to his house one day and told him I was going to move with our daughter out of state to be near my other daughter since all my parents passed away over the past year, I have no family or friends where I live now. He says don't do that, you are in my heart and soul, if you stay i know we can work things out. He keeps saying let me come to you. I've thought about imploying the going dark for a month and then testing. I really don't know how to deal, I seriously have no one, there will be days go by and the only conversation I have is with my 6 month old. I have to make some decisions about my work, that affect our daughter, there's more but writing about it just brings me so down. Help please!
Me 37 Him will be 28 in a few days (previous marriage) 16 G 6 months G (our together)
Me 40 H 30 D19 previous marriage, d3 and s10months H walked out nov 1, 2009 Seperated ever since filed for d nov 2010, served h 12-22-10
