Well that sucks. What do you think you will do? Do you have any support off board that you can contact?
I've suspected that my H reads my threads but I can't say 100% sure. I still post, I state that facts. If this is the method he wants to use to hear what I have to say then that's his choice to hear the hurt and pain he has caused by his actions.
Your W reading what other people have to say about her actions may be an eye opener, it may make her brace up even more against you. Maybe she'll even post here too. It's happened before.
Stay strong. Chin up.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.