I too am sorry if I caused you anxiety. That was not my intention. I guess I'm wondering why you shared it with us. Did you think that it showed us a pathetic side of W? That's all she could get was some old Santa-looking dude?
No, not that he is 'all she could get', but that the 'fun, happy person' she is supposed to be is only hanging around with needy, older friends she's met at the Spiritual center.
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It almost seems as if you are making excuses for her...again. And maybe I need to clarify. Your wife's intention may have been altruistic or just an escape from boredom. I don't know. I do think there is at least a slight possibility that Santa may be lonely and vulnerable and have intentions other than friendship. How did he know that your W was house-sitting? She had to have shared that and other details of what is going on in her life or he never would have called her thinking she might "be bored". It's not right to string along this guy just so she won't be bored.
He knows because he's part of her group of about 5-6 friends from the Spiritual Center. He hangs around with the 'Light Guru' and the rest of them so he knows her, just like the others do. Maybe he's 'hopeful' but I doubt it. Besides, it's a stretch to think that. And I really don't WANT to think that right now. He probably sees her as a lonely friend also.
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Unless of course, she has done other activities with Santa in the past and this is nothing new (as far as the girls would go).
Yes, that is exactly true. He is part of this small 'group' that she hangs out with.
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Regardless of intentions on either side, I agree with you and your in-laws that she should be spending time with her girls and not friends. Especially since she is working more and not seeing them very often.
Yep. She should.
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I hope your adventure with D went well. That was an awesome idea on your part.
We had fun, we went to Griffith Park Observatory in L.A. ans saw the Planetarium show and al lthe new exhibits. She had a lot of fun.
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No one here wants to cause you more anxiety. I do believe most people want you to look realistically at your life and situation. Stop trying to sugar coat your W's actions, your marriage, the mess you are in right now. It is what it is. Keep working on you and taking care of those great girls.
I know nobodys intention was to cause me more anxiety, Sara was trying to be light hearted and you're trying to be realistic. I appreciate the concerns, it just struck a nerve.
