I too am sorry if I caused you anxiety. That was not my intention. I guess I'm wondering why you shared it with us. Did you think that it showed us a pathetic side of W? That's all she could get was some old Santa-looking dude? It almost seems as if you are making excuses for her...again. And maybe I need to clarify. Your wife's intention may have been altruistic or just an escape from boredom. I don't know. I do think there is at least a slight possibility that Santa may be lonely and vulnerable and have intentions other than friendship. How did he know that your W was house-sitting? She had to have shared that and other details of what is going on in her life or he never would have called her thinking she might "be bored". It's not right to string along this guy just so she won't be bored.
And before anyone points it out, I am very aware that men and women can be "just friends". I have many men friends. I'm just thinking this is not a good time for W to be exploring new friendships with men. Unless of course, she has done other activities with Santa in the past and this is nothing new (as far as the girls would go).
Regardless of intentions on either side, I agree with you and your in-laws that she should be spending time with her girls and not friends. Especially since she is working more and not seeing them very often. I hope your adventure with D went well. That was an awesome idea on your part.
No one here wants to cause you more anxiety. I do believe most people want you to look realistically at your life and situation. Stop trying to sugar coat your W's actions, your marriage, the mess you are in right now. It is what it is. Keep working on you and taking care of those great girls.
Hugs, Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
