Take it for what it is Addie; Your H wants to spend time with you because he likes the changes you've made. I'm not the best person to give you advice but I think you need to stay dim with him for a while longer. It seems to work with him. I'm sure he doesn't see you as a doormat.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*