H and I are having email wars now! I told H the only conversation I had with D8 this week was when we talked about how most married dads don't have girlfriends (at the advice of my C). He emailed me back that he would like me to tell him when I am talking about him and his life to the kids & how would I feel if he discussed mental illness with them? (referring to my depression that I had last year!)

I emailed back: You can tell them I was depressed for several years if you'd like, although my counselor says you probably contributed to that quite a bit with your anger/name-calling/emotionally checking out of the marriage. You've had many conversations without me or informing me: when you told the kids you were moving out was without me, and the day that you actually moved out you didn't tell me beforehand, etc. Can you explain why you think I should communicate with you when you don't return the favor to me???

Then he emailed back:that he did tell me he was moving out and I guess I just couldn't handle tht & if he was the sole reason for my depression it was for the best he moved out and why am I taking ADs if he was the sole reason for my depression? I emailed H back:

I am talking about the conversation in which you told the kids you were moving out; you did not allow me to participate or be present in that discussion or tell me the day you were moving out (I figured it out when I heard you moving furniture!), and you never communicate with me about stuff like that but you think I should!! I said in my email my counselor feels you contributed which doesn't mean you were the sole reason for my depression but she feels you were a contributing factor. I am surprised you bring that up, b/c for a long time you have denied I even had a depression! I guess you could say moving out was for the best, or you could just try work on your anger & name-calling problems instead of running away from them.

I'm not doing DB at all day, b/c I am so upset with H!!! I need to calm down...this has been our first fight in a month or two and H is so frustrating! Karen

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