Being OW

[MichelleLT]

The things they say and do are amazing. I think H told OW I had had an affair while he was deployed overseas (not true). It's amazing the things they come up with to justify their unhappiness.

The important thing is to not take it personally and remember that they are acting out of their own misery and unhappiness and that in reality, it often has little to do with you. You can't fix it for them, or make them see how horrible the OP is, all you can is let them realize things for themselves - starting with YOU were NOT the CAUSE of their unhappiness! As LBS, I think our job is to keep the door open for R if/when they come to their senses.