The Ws will keep looking for validation for their choices and when they realize they are still not happy, they will not trust those giving them validation for the choices themselves. However, accepting the person and not their actions has much more believability in the long term.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God