Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #12

[missmyfriend]

Easter was really nice. Just washed a nearly 100 pound Golden with my D. He decided he wanted out of the tub when he was still soapy. He was scared when I picked him up and put him back. He is such a great dog!

The challenge with our Ws is to know when to help and when not to. I try to balance what I would do for any friend and just enough to what she seems open to. Her biggest "need" is to know she is able to handle things on her own.

Your W is sharing this with you which is great because she trusts you to know it without you coming to the rescue. I know you want to. I bet you would rather find her a place than hear she is in a bad neighborhood. But that is where we have to be hands off. Listen but try not to fix. Unless they directly ask us to fix something but even then it is a challenge whether we should or not.

Imageer, it could be a great place in a great neighborhood but in time it would be lacking because it is not going to make her happy.