Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #12

[missmyfriend]

I understand Imageer about wondering about whether this is a positive or a negative. Honestly, it could be either but when it comes down to it, over time, I think that everything is going to lead back to you and her, together again. Yes, I am a hopeful romantic but I do believe that if we persist in a positive way, which could be manifested in having a hands off approach, our relationships with our spouses can be stronger than it ever was.

I am doing what I think I need to do, i.e. loving her from a distance (as Jack has said recently is the best thing to do with MLCers) and being the one that is steadfast, loyal and forgiving. All the other fake things in our wives lives will eventually become apparent. And while you and I and so many others on this board have made these changes about ourselves more permanent regardless of what our spouses do, will be more ready to handle the eventual piecing that is so challenging.

The way you to have such a good relationship has a lot to do with your ability to love her regardless of her actions. I seriously doubt she thinks you are supportive of her choices but she probably trusts you because you are so consistent. People like you are the kind of people I trust and am loyal to. So I am sure this will do everything to make your marriage come alive again.

Have an awesome day buddy!

mmf