Being OW

[Hope4us]

Just found this thread and it seemed like a good place to put into thought a number of things I've been feeling in my whole mess. A lot of what has been said here makes total sense to me and validates a lot of what I've been feeling.

In my sitch, angry with OM? Absolutely. I would love to give him the a** kicking he deserves. He's a married, serial cheatin, alcoholic, abusive POS and nothing would make me happier than to break by knuckles on his jaw. But....

I'm so terribly disappointed in WW. One of the first days she met OM another guy she works with told her to watch out for OM as he was always fishin. And I warned her many times before the affair started that a guy that lives 1000 miles from home year after year and only goes home everyother month if he's lucky is NOT someone you want to be "friends" with as I guaranteed her that he has women on the side. I guaranteed her that he would try something with her and she said "I'm a big girl and would end our friendship if he tried". Couple months later she's in bed with him. How does a wayward allow themselves to fall for that when all the warning signs are there that the OP is a player?

After I found out about the affair I asked her if she really thought he hasn't done this before and would do it again once he got tired of her and she replied "I don't know, we don't talk about that stuff". Of course you don't. And then after I exposed to OMW she sent an email to WW telling her all about OM's previous affairs etc and that still didn't wake her up. Cause she "loves him". Give me a frickin break. You really think you're in love with someone who has no problem cheatin on his wife at least 5 times that she knows of? What do you have to say to your self to convince yourself that that is "love"?

And as soon as OMW finds out, he goes running back to her and WW can't figure out he was just using her? After all the warnings, etc she can't figure that out? I really don't want to insult my WW, but can you be that STUPID? Of course, maybe WW is smart afterall. I asked her many times to introduce me to her new "friend". If she liked him, I'm sure I'd like him also. She always made up an excuse why we couldn't meet. After I discovered the affair I said to her I understood now why she didn't want us to meet and she said the real reason was she was afraid I would kick his a** (and that I'm pretty sure I could do, I have an NFL linebacker build). Man I've had some wonderful daydreams about doing just that.

Ok, vent is over.