Real quick, I just wanted to say, as usual, that I agree with Puppy. The constant texts/calls are H's way of maintaining control and the comfort he wants to reassure himself that you are exactly where you say you are and doing what you're 'supposed' to be doing. It wouldn't surprise me if he has a hidden fear in the back of his mind that you might possibly 'retaliate' against him for what he did (the A). That might sound crazy, but it could be. Shortly after my H and I S'ed, he would call me all the time to check up on me, especially on Friday nights when he knew the kids were going to be with a sitter (my parents or MIL). One time he actually admitted having this fear.
Your H wanting to have you beside him all the time could be for the same reason. Despite all he's said and done, H is probably afraid he might lose you, so it's very comforting for him to have you right there.
As Puppy suggested, limit your responses to the texts/calls. Answer only when/if necessary. Spend some QT with your H when you're at home together, but be the first to break away. You can be there for him, but you've got to be there for yourself as well. I think it was Emily who pointed out that you still need to really work on detaching, and she's right. I know it's hard to not think about your H and what he's up to when he's away, but you have to let go. Lovingly detach.
(((Be strong.)))
BTW, I got your e-mail and will respond tomorrow morning. I gotta get on the road now!
Happy Easter! You, too, Puppy!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
