Fish, there are ups and downs to dealing with all of this stuff.
What did you say to wife when you saw OM there?
As far as her best friend goes, DO NOT DO IT.
Right now your daughter can look back when she gets older and see all of the things you tried to do to save your family. If you take this action prior to your divorce, that all goes straight to hell and now your daughter has reason to hate you as well, is that what you want?
What you do with your marital situation is up to you, we all have our limits and boundaries. Her having OM around your D is just wrong. She should not put your D in that position as it will confuse her. I completely understand that we have limits and once they are crossed, you may have to end your marriage. Just make sure you are truly wanting to do that and not simply acting on your anger.
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* Friday afternoon - W and I go out to lunch, get bombed and get into a huge fight. I have no idea what we were arguing about.
Bad idea getting bombed, and even worse that you dont know what you were fighting about.
Look Fish, anger has a way of controlling us and not making us think very clearly. What were you doing before she let you come home? Did you continue those things once you got home or go back to business as usual? The question is, why in week #2 did she start questioning?
Just do some thinking and do not react off the cuff. Your marriage may be over, but it will not kill you to not think about that for a day or two and get your thoughts together.
