Forgiveness vs trust

[sage]

Bumbling -- how did it go???? I can imagine very well how devastating it was to find out that h and ow are still in contact...are you certain that the emails and msgs were outside of normal professional contact?

How long have you been DB'ing?

You mentioned that you and h decided (???) that they would stop working together if they couldnt stop their a....was that an ultimatum from you or do you feel like that was a mutual agreement? I ask because if it was a mutual agreement it's easier to pull it out ... if it was an ultimatum then you need to weigh what your goals are right now....

It's not fair or right or easy but I believe it IS possible to DB successfully while the ow is still in the picture. Not saying that's the recommended course of action...it would depend on what YOUR goal is.

The other thing...you don't actually need to do anything RIGHT now, right? You could use the next few weeks (or however long) to get your ducks in a row, so to speak...DB for you and the M while deciding what you want to do.

Sorry to just throw all that out there without any real help offered! arrgh.

Let us know how you are,
Sage