Forgiveness vs trust

[sage]

H says in order for us to get to a better place in R, I need to trust again. Doing so makes me feel so vulnerable. It has click with me that H didn't trust me enough to share his unhappiness for 5y. He doesn't trust me enough to open up and share is fears and feelings. He is unable to make himself vulnerable. I wish we could hold hands and make the leap into vulnerability together. But I fear I will need to be the first to make the step.

You've summed up exactly how I feel! To me it feels like this crazy intermingling of insecurities ... it would make it SO much easier if we could just rip off the protective masks at the same time...but like you, I suspect it doesn't work that way.

Maybe it's build on baby steps...just like DB'ing.

Sage