Yep...confused, conflicted...and most likely depressed...
You on the other hand are sounding confident, strong, and rational...I too felt compassion for my H...I knew he had to be absolutely miserable inside to be doing the crazy hurtful things he was doing to his family...
At the time it was hard to imagine that one could recover...but now looking at my H it is hard to imagine that he was the same man that did those things to me...maybe he isn't??? It is a very strange phenomenon for sure, this MLC...after being in the hub of it for nearly 7 years total...I am feeling like our life is back on track...I will never again ignore warning signs in my marriage...and I don't think I will ever stop DB'ing...like changing your eating habits and becoming healthy...I have changed my relationship habits and intend on staying healthy there as well!
