THANKS SO MUCH jethro and KAW! It is such a relief to have someone understand my feelings.
Quote: After I found out about my W's EA/PA, she was doing stuff for me, but she wasn't doing these things with "conviction."
You are right H is doing the right things. I should not question his motive. At times H does have conviction, maybe I'm worried he will stop trying.
Quote: As we give them space, ease the tension, they are able to come around...slowly, day-by-day.
You are so right again. At times the harder I try I think H does feel pressure and perseives my intensity as failure on his part to make me feel better.
I have gotten the message- time for something for me. I think I just needed to know that easing off is o.k., that I don't have to work on this constantly. So I'm off to play in the dirt with S and his diggers.
thanks again for being there with great perspectives. Bumbling
