Frank, the lexapro does not eliminate the feelings, only makes them easier to handle.
Do what you had planned for your kids, actually it is just fine if they get two baskets. They will know that you both love them very much. As far as the brunch goes, if you are going to be home, be engaged in it. Do not allow her to segregate you in your own home, that would have horrible impact on your kids. She could always take them out for brunch if she wants them to herself.
Stay strong Frank, your doing better than you think you are.
